f.3 a state of disharmony
disharmony
When life is going well and good, we often equate it with harmony. We feel “in tune” with our surroundings and others, and positive about where things are going. There is a certain level of fluidity in life that comes from a state of harmony. While in a harmonious state, I believe, we are more likely to make transitions positively, to succeed in our endeavours, and to find happiness in the things we do and that which surrounds us. Accordingly, these things are less likely while we are disharmonious.
As I write this today, I’m uncertain of whether or not I am in harmony or not in my life. I am surrounded by family who loves me, and I have amazing friends that mean a lot to me. The fact that I haven’t seen some of them for a long time yet I still consider them friends is a testament to their beings and how well we’ve synchronized in the past. But – like so many people – I feel that I’m missing that one key piece to happiness. What that “one” thing is varies from person to person, and I think that having a void is what keeps us moving forward toward a better day, but that doesn’t make its absence any more (or less) keenly felt.
How, then, do we bring harmony into our lives? Or, perhaps more precisely, how do we bring our lives into better harmony with the environment around us? This question has plagued philosophers since before Aristotle was a toddler, and will continue to bother us until time’s end, I suspect. I believe that the first step is self-introspection into what we feel we are missing in our lives. Second, as we identify a thing or things we feel we are missing, we must measure how attainable these things we desire are. Unrealistic expectations of what will be is a great way to create disharmony. For example, if I set a goal of having Hugh Jackman as my best friend, it is very unlikely to occur. I suspect this is where stalking enters ones life, and it is not a realm I care to explore.
The third, and final step is actualization. With respect to harmony, it is bringing one’s self in tune with the events we want to happen. This doesn’t translate to easy, fun, or magic. It also does not bring about universal peace, an end to hunger, or even more than a moment’s joy. But, I posit that steps toward happiness are better than steps away from it. Finding ways to bring harmony into your life are infinitely better than ways that bring disharmony to yourself or those around you. Honesty with yourself primarily, and from and to others, secondarily, is the essence of harmony. Unspoken truths and falsehoods will bring disharmony wherever they crop up, and we must do well to guard against them.
Pax.
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